Lost You Anyway
We are currently in the middle of a pretty big move. We've moved a fair amount, and I have noticed when I start packing boxes, my mind often goes to missed opportunities. Things I wanted to do, should have done, and now it's too late.
One of the biggest regrets is always failure in relationships. Especially when I should have confronted someone on something, but people pleasing won the day. Instead of risking the anger of the one I needed to confront, I chose the coward's way.
The thing is, when the opportunity is gone, there is always a sorrow, even greater than if I had been brave and risked the person blowing up the relationship.
When I have been brave in the past, the blowup has happened. But afterwards, if I have done my best to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15), I have peace. And hope that over time the relationship can be healed. That's because in obeying Christ, there is always hope.
Speaking the truth in love is not easy. The truth doesn't feel loving. As a sinner myself, who am I to confront anyone? Jesus has advice for that too. Get the log out of your own eye before taking the speck out of someone else's (Matthew 7:3-5).
If we don't practice this, the log stays in our eyes and the speck stays in our loved one's eye.
One thing we can do when we have regrets like mine is learn from them. In 2023 I released an album of retrospective songs called What Once Was.
On this collection of songs from my life experience is a song that came from my regret, and it has helped me going forward. It is called Lost You Anyway. I hope it helps you. You can hear it on the album on Spotify, or here on the website.
May you be blessed,